Comments on: How do I tell my parents dating older man? http://firesoflove.com/?p=380 Find the love you want... Mon, 06 Sep 2010 04:22:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Noni Berry http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1397 Noni Berry Mon, 30 Nov 2009 17:55:42 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1397 I think you’ll probably be able to find the answer to your dilemma at Lisa Daily’s site, (Plus, there’s a lot of good info there.) She’s the author of two dating books, HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP and STOP GETTING DUMPED. It’s one of my favorite sites for dating tips and advice, and the videos are pretty funny. I’m pretty sure she answers questions that are sent to her, you might try her for an answer to your question. I think you’ll probably be able to find the answer to your dilemma at Lisa Daily’s site, (Plus, there’s a lot of good info there.) She’s the author of two dating books, HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP and STOP GETTING DUMPED. It’s one of my favorite sites for dating tips and advice, and the videos are pretty funny.

I’m pretty sure she answers questions that are sent to her, you might try her for an answer to your question.

]]> By: SJourneyS http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1396 SJourneyS Sun, 29 Nov 2009 15:52:52 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1396 If you have been together for a year, and happy, then that's the risk you will have to take. Live your lives for yourselves and not your family. You may never find a man that loves you or treats you the way this man does. This is what I say about parents of adults. Your parents don't necessarily have to like the person you choose to be with, but they do need to respect that person and vice versa. If you have been together for a year, and happy, then that’s the risk you will have to take. Live your lives for yourselves and not your family. You may never find a man that loves you or treats you the way this man does. This is what I say about parents of adults. Your parents don’t necessarily have to like the person you choose to be with, but they do need to respect that person and vice versa.

]]> By: Bamlover07 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1395 Bamlover07 Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:19:55 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1395 Just tell them. Theres not much that they can do at this point. And hopfully they will be supporative!!!! Goodluck! Just tell them. Theres not much that they can do at this point. And hopfully they will be supporative!!!!
Goodluck!

]]> By: tap1210 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1394 tap1210 Thu, 26 Nov 2009 06:08:58 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1394 I had to do this too. It was hard. We had 17 years difference. We dated for about 6 months before I told my mom.I told my mom first because she is more understanding and layed back. I told my dad a couple months after that. He was kind of speechless. I just started off by saying I have always made good decisions in the past and you have to trust my decisions now. I really love that person and we have been dating for a while. The reason I waited to tell you was because I wanted to feel out the situation to make sure this was right and now I am confident! He is GREAT! ~~~~IT WILL ALL WORK OUT!!!~~~~ My ex, who is 17 years older, was really great! We dated for 3 1/2 years and we are still best friends. I would never have taken back my time with him! GOOD LUCK! I had to do this too. It was hard. We had 17 years difference.

We dated for about 6 months before I told my mom.I told my mom first because she is more understanding and layed back.

I told my dad a couple months after that. He was kind of speechless. I just started off by saying I have always made good decisions in the past and you have to trust my decisions now. I really love that person and we have been dating for a while. The reason I waited to tell you was because I wanted to feel out the situation to make sure this was right and now I am confident! He is GREAT!

~~~~IT WILL ALL WORK OUT!!!~~~~

My ex, who is 17 years older, was really great! We dated for 3 1/2 years and we are still best friends. I would never have taken back my time with him!

GOOD LUCK!

]]> By: rooner http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1393 rooner Sun, 22 Nov 2009 21:20:11 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1393 ergh hard. very hard. just make sure they know that you're happy and that it's what you want. as long as your family is supportive of you and your decisions, they should be supportive of the fact that you're happy with an older man. good luck :) ergh hard. very hard. just make sure they know that you’re happy and that it’s what you want. as long as your family is supportive of you and your decisions, they should be supportive of the fact that you’re happy with an older man.

good luck :)

]]> By: Matt http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1392 Matt Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:37:40 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1392 at a good moment where everyone is happy.. bring up the topic but DO NOT throw it at them. be gental its big news so you don't want to over overwhelm them. take it slow and don't forget to say how happy you are and how he is such a good guy and all the positive things. oh and don't make the age difference seem like a big deal its really not. hope this helps.. :) at a good moment where everyone is happy.. bring up the topic but DO NOT throw it at them. be gental its big news so you don’t want to over overwhelm them. take it slow and don’t forget to say how happy you are and how he is such a good guy and all the positive things. oh and don’t make the age difference seem like a big deal its really not.

hope this helps.. :)

]]> By: Jennifer W http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1391 Jennifer W Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:28:00 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1391 Im more curious about what the two of you have in common. Obviously you have decided to keep if from your parents for a reason, I mean are you afraid of their reaction? You are both grown adults so they may have their reservations about it but there really isn't too much they can do about it. If the two of you are happy and he is sincere in his intentions for you then I say go for it! Try not to let the small stuff get you down sugar. Im more curious about what the two of you have in common. Obviously you have decided to keep if from your parents for a reason, I mean are you afraid of their reaction? You are both grown adults so they may have their reservations about it but there really isn’t too much they can do about it. If the two of you are happy and he is sincere in his intentions for you then I say go for it! Try not to let the small stuff get you down sugar.

]]> By: princ355_f10n4 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1390 princ355_f10n4 Thu, 19 Nov 2009 23:03:14 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1390 your over 18 and ur legally an adult its your decision not ur parents be happy you owe it to yourself your over 18 and ur legally an adult

its your decision not ur parents

be happy

you owe it to yourself

]]> By: katerbecker http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1389 katerbecker Mon, 16 Nov 2009 15:08:03 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1389 Wait til your 30th birthday, if it's still alive, you can let everyone know. Just kidding! Are you both ready to go public? Then go public. People can disapprove of a relationship for a whole host of reasons. Are you worried the relationship won't withstand the scrutiny of others' judgment? Don't worry if you are, it's probably somewhat natural. How has your family reacted to your prior relationships? Has your family/his ever been the source of sabotage for any of them, friendships, romances, whatever? Did you know that one of the top five reasons for divorce is your in-laws? Potential in-laws can be really scary, and you are at that age where people expect you to be shopping for life, so their scrutiny is sometimes really horrible. Don't just reveal it because you are sick of hiding it, reveal it because you are excited and happy about it and you want others to share in your joy. If your family is a joy-killer for you, always questioning your decisions and your relationships, maybe keep this one under wraps until you are okay with whatever it is that anyone else may say, and evaluate the relationship for yourself as well. Wait til your 30th birthday, if it’s still alive, you can let everyone know. Just kidding!

Are you both ready to go public? Then go public. People can disapprove of a relationship for a whole host of reasons. Are you worried the relationship won’t withstand the scrutiny of others’ judgment? Don’t worry if you are, it’s probably somewhat natural.

How has your family reacted to your prior relationships? Has your family/his ever been the source of sabotage for any of them, friendships, romances, whatever? Did you know that one of the top five reasons for divorce is your in-laws? Potential in-laws can be really scary, and you are at that age where people expect you to be shopping for life, so their scrutiny is sometimes really horrible.

Don’t just reveal it because you are sick of hiding it, reveal it because you are excited and happy about it and you want others to share in your joy. If your family is a joy-killer for you, always questioning your decisions and your relationships, maybe keep this one under wraps until you are okay with whatever it is that anyone else may say, and evaluate the relationship for yourself as well.

]]> By: Your Truth http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1388 Your Truth Mon, 16 Nov 2009 07:18:56 +0000 http://firesoflove.com/?p=380#comment-1388 You approach it with a quick exiting stradegy when things get bad...J/k. You are a mature girl and are fully responsible for all of your decisions. You should not have to hide this from your family. They should understand that you are well capable of making your own choices in life. They should get passed the label of age as you have. I'm sure they will be happy that you have found someone you are happy with, that's what really matters here. As for breaking the news, just tell your closest relatives and have them spread it around the family. Then at the next family event bring him along. Family is something that will accept you no matter what. You approach it with a quick exiting stradegy when things get bad…J/k. You are a mature girl and are fully responsible for all of your decisions. You should not have to hide this from your family. They should understand that you are well capable of making your own choices in life. They should get passed the label of age as you have. I’m sure they will be happy that you have found someone you are happy with, that’s what really matters here. As for breaking the news, just tell your closest relatives and have them spread it around the family. Then at the next family event bring him along. Family is something that will accept you no matter what.

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